Works with
How Toby works
Practical facts
- Credentials
- LCSW
- Licensed in
- New York
- Years in practice
- 25
- Languages
- English, Spanish
- Session format
- Online, through our partner platform
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience helping people sort through stress, anxiety, anger, grief, and relationship concerns. She meets clients where they are and focuses on practical steps that can reduce overwhelm and improve day-to-day coping.
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish and can address career strain, parenting stress, compassion fatigue, and related challenges. She describes her role as a guide who helps people build on strengths they already have.
Background and approach
She listens for what matters to each person and works collaboratively to set goals. Toby prefers regular weekly or bi-weekly sessions to keep progress steady and predictable. Her approach draws from cognitive behavioral therapy to identify unhelpful thoughts and patterns, and from attachment-based ideas to look at how relationships shape feelings and behavior.
She also uses client-centered and emotionally-focused methods to create space for honest reflection and clearer communication. Over her career she has worked with people from diverse cultural and sexual orientation backgrounds and considers cultural norms when tailoring care. She has experience with trauma, abuse, chronic illness and pain, addiction-related concerns, domestic violence, and first responder stress among other issues.
Sessions are available by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging. Toby uses a subscription model that can be canceled at any time; costs vary by location and therapist availability. To begin, select the Start Therapy button and complete a short matching questionnaire to schedule a first appointment.
What Toby works with
Everything Toby lists, in the therapist's own terms. Anger is the reason this directory exists; the rest tells you what usually sits alongside it in Toby's practice.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Approaches Toby lists
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist names and does not check training records.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online care
Attachment-based work focuses on how early and current relationships shape emotions and reactions. Online sessions can help identify patterns in relationships and practice new ways of relating that reduce reactivity and anger.Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, looks at the link between thoughts, feelings, and actions. In remote sessions a therapist and client can track triggers, test thinking errors, and try small behavioral experiments between meetings to lower anxiety and improve mood.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals and preferences and suggest which methods to try first. Choices are revisited as progress is made so the plan fits the client's needs.
Online formats available include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is useful for deeper conversational work and nonverbal cues. Phone sessions can fit a break at work or require less bandwidth. Instant messaging and text tools allow brief check-ins, skill prompts, and step-by-step coaching between live meetings. These options make therapy more flexible and easier to fit into a busy life.
Questions people ask about Toby
What concerns does this therapist address?
Common areas include stress, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, anger, grief, relationship strain, parenting stress, compassion fatigue, and career issues.
What is the therapist's general approach in sessions?
Sessions focus on practical problem solving and building on existing strengths. Methods include talking through patterns, practicing new skills, and setting realistic goals together.
How much clinical experience does the therapist have?
The clinician has 25 years of practice working with individual adults and a long history of addressing trauma, grief, and stress-related concerns.
Where is the therapist licensed and based?
The therapist holds an LCSW credential and is licensed in New York.
What languages are offered for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Which session formats are available?
Clients can meet by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging depending on their needs.
How are fees and billing handled?
Costs vary with location and therapist availability; sessions are provided through a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I get started with therapy?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and then schedule a session according to therapist availability.